Many parents do not play with their children for more than 2 hours a week. This is a real thing, in fact, 70% of parents do not play with their children during the week more than the commented time. This has been shown by a study by the Famosa toy brand.
Parents need to start thinking about this. When they least expect it, their children will no longer be children and their childhood will be gone. They need to play with their children because it is essential for their development and self-esteem. As time passes, if parents focus more on responsibilities than their little ones and their development… after a few years, they will undoubtedly regret not having done so. But time does not go back.
Why Parents Don’t Play With Their Children
Parents know that this is important but afterwards very few actually play with their children. The reality is that many want to play with them and feel bad for not doing it whenever they want … but they have many responsibilities that they feel prevent them from doing so and that generates a feeling of guilt that is sometimes difficult to manage.
They know that it is important to play with their little ones and that it is invaluable. They are also aware that spending quality time with family is also necessary … but it seems difficult to put down smartphones, not be connected to work or stop doing tasks that could wait.
Think about your priorities: make a list
In most cases it is usually a problem of priorities. It is necessary that as parents, we make an effort and a work of internal reflection. Think about the 6 priorities you have in your life right now, do it in order of importance. Once you have done it (I advise you to write them down), then think about the time you spent yesterday on each of those priorities. Then, rewrite the list, putting first the priority you spent the most time on yesterday.
The list has probably changed a bit, do you know why? Because in your mind you know what is more important and later, in everyday life, you do not spend the time you should (according to its importance). It is normal for us to get carried away by the urgent, so it cannot wait: children’s homework, extracurricular activities, making lunch and dinner, talking to that important client, cleaning at home … and when we get to the end of the day we are so exhausted We leave the screens to the children because we really can’t take it anymore.
The plant is sown from a young age
We fall into the error of wanting to have a beautiful forest without even being able to plant a seed. Children are like plants, you have to plant them, give them away every day and give them unconditional love in the care so that they grow healthy and strong (both inside and out).
If this is not taken into account, over time parents wonder why their children are not aware of their efforts, why they are not able to take responsibility, why they have such a low tolerance for frustration, why they do not enjoy or they are grateful … there are so many questions that parents ask themselves just for not having well thought out priorities …
Children need time and dedication, just like someone who wants to plant a forest or have a nice garden. Your children need you every day, they need to feel safe by your side, to know that if they need you, you will be there… and not just to scold them or to tell them what they are doing wrong. They need to feel valued by you.
You cannot expect your children to grow up and be good people when you do not worry about spending quality time with them, no matter how little, or you do not give importance to emotional education.